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Published On: Mon, Jul 12th, 2010

Akhir England to Jana ha Na!

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Akhir England to Jana Hai!

Agar aap dadyal main kuch karney ke qabal nahi ya aap ke pass taleem (education) ki kami hai to aap apni family main kisi british larki/larkey se shadi kar ke England chaley jayo!    Ji han ye rawaaj (custom/norm) hai jo barsoon se dadyal main chal raha hai. Hum apne nakamey aur gair-taleem yafta (uneducated)larkon ki shadi England ki pari likhi (educated)  larkion se kar datey hain aur umeed kartey hain kay wo achi zindigi guzaren gee. Yehi rawaj hai jo hume apni pari likhi larkion ki shadi England ke nakamey aur awara larkon se karney par majbor kar deta hai. Bla Kun!  Akhir England to Jana Hai! Ye har us maan baap ka qol hai jo apne bachoon ko taleem nae dila sakey ya phir un ko apne mulk main jene ka tareqa nae sikha sakey aur wo ye kese kartey jab wo hood is qabil nahi they, wo hood England se aye huey rizk se paley huey they.

Kuch logon ka kehna hai kay aik un-parr (uneducated) ki shadi aik parey likhey se ho to aik nia para likha handan janam le ga, main is baat ko manta hoon lekin wo log sath ye btana bol jatey hain kay agar shadi kamyab hoi to. Aaj se 10 saal pehley ye baat chal sakti thi par ab nahi, aksar shadian sirf settlment tak mahdood hoti hain, aur aisi shadian  , shadian nae Thaikay kehlatey hain. England waley larkey ya larki ki stay kra ke samajtey hain kay in ki zimadari pori ho chuki hai, akhir wo bi kia karen wo bi majbor hotey hain , in ki olaad (son/daughter) to shadi ke liey razi nae hote aur bradri main naak rakhney ke liey short term contract kartey hain kay hum bachay ki stay kra dain gey is ke bad wo janey aur is ka mustakbil. Aur humarey matlab parasat dadyali is baat par bi razi ho jatey hain, Akhir England to Jana Hai!

Aisey waldain ( parents ) ka ye bi kehna hai kay hum nai larki aur larkey ki raey (suggestion/agreement) lee thi, halakay aisi koi baat nae hoti. Jahil larkey aur larkian England janey ki khushi main han kar detey hain. Aik gareeb garaney ki larki ya larkey ko jab apni umar se 10 saal bari larki/larkey ka rishta ata hai to is waqt na to shakal dekhtey hain aur na kirdar, in ke zehan main sirf paisa aur passport hota hai. Aur jis kaam ki bunyaad lalach par ho wo kabi kamyab nae hota. Humarey waldain agar pakistan se rishta aye beshak larka para likha ho aur hoobsort ho, rishta nae den gey aur jab koi british jaye wo na to umar dekhtey hain aur na taleem, in ki aik hi hawahish hoti hai bass kisi tarah mera bacha bachi england settle ho jaye.

Meri ye pehli tehrir bohat se walden (parents) ko sochney par majbor karey ge.Is ki waja kia hai, Is ki waja hai humara rizk,  joon joon hum haram khatey hain, humarey andar magrab ki gandy soch janam le rahi hai. Wo kirdar jo aaj se 10 saal pehley dadyali ka tha wo aaj bohat kam handanoon main dekhney ko milta hai.

(Un tamam families se mazrat jin par in batoon ka itlaaq nae hota )

(Sorry, For those families on which it does not apply)

Translated by shahzad ali.

(shahzad_ali_kandore@hotmail.com)

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  1. Wahid Kashir says:

    Agreed to some points but who wrote this article? Waqas ?

  2. admin says:

    معاف کیجیے گا یہ کوشش بندہ نہ چیز ہے۔ آپ لوگ تو لکھتے نہیں مجھے ہی کچھ کرنا پڑا

    • Raja Abdul Rasheed says:

      Salam! Jani kya haal hain? Yaar bohat acha article hai. Waisey Tum dhudyal ki baat kar rahey ho. yahan tow poorey Pakistan mein yehi riwaj hai. anyhow jani pls send me ur FaceBOOK ID. Thx!

  3. Kashief says:

    Some very interesting points raised but on the whole one can say that in most cases the illiteracy and ignorance together with traditional belief of our parents has left a lot us in having to endure the consequences.

  4. shahzad says:

    Akhir England to Jana hai!

    You are very right! i agree with you. This theory apply to 80% or more of population of dadyal settled in England.

    There are very few couples who deserve each other in such a cases.

  5. javeria says:

    Most interesting , realy true and interesting article based on reality.british purchase our innocent girls for their charactrless sons.

    • Hamza says:

      Yaar Bahi sahib Naraaz mat hona per Aqal or Soach yeah kahti hey mojoda halaat ko daikhty hoe ke………Shayed aap ka Rishta Nahi ho saka warna Naqqar Khaney mai tooti ki awaaz kon nikaalney ki koshish kerta hey….Berhaal….Dadyaal/Mirpor ki tu yeah kahani hey…Per Baaqi ke ilaaqon ke sath Ziyaadi nahi..wahan ke nikammy sapooot kahan jaain….Kia yeah khulla tizaad nahi 0_0

  6. nikhaar dadyaal says:

    javeria i like ur point of view n agree wid it somehow

  7. nikhaar dadyaal says:

    sori if i m hurtin any1 by my words,i read it,n in my point of view its bit childish writing these typ of articles,these realities gone old now,evry1 knw it realy realy wel so no point of teling them wot,they already knw,but stil chosing that way hapily,stil wiling 2 go there hapily.some how its not our fault,our social system is like that ,we cant chang it,we hv 2 folow it,
    anyway its vry vry gud efort by our admin side,we must apreciat,keep it up brova.
    looking fowrd for another 1…….

    • I m sorry to say i can’t agree with you on this one. Maybe people now it but they don’t know it very very well as u mentioned. If they know it very very well why they still doing such a stupid actions. A boy is getting married with a girl which is already married twice just cos she is from England. I can give u a lot of more such a examples you won’t believe. Its a kind of public service message for such a people which you are calling a childish article. And no one gona change our social system but You & Me. I don’t say we should not go England , there are a lot of advantages too but we can’t ignore our islamic rules and social norms.
      any way thanks for commenting on admin’s article , i really appreciate your effort D:
      Atleast you have written more than the typical words of appreciation. thankx and i am expecting that you will still defend your evidence & commentry.
      thankx again.

  8. Shahid says:

    Main ap ki baat se atfaq nai karta keun k agr log england nai jaen ge tu wo apni family ko kharcha pani nai toren ge tu yahan k dadyalye ka our koi zarya b tu nai hai . our ap keun england jane walon k peche pare hai lagta hai ap ka england jane ka koi zarya nai hai . ya pir ap ki england ki shaadi nai hoi hai . zara gor karo .

    • javeria says:

      shahid sahab u r very wrong.paisa is nt everthing.zindagi ma paisey ki ahmiyat se inkar nahe magar pakistan ma aise boht se zrai hain jin se itna pesa kamaya ja sakta he k izat ki zindagi guzari ja sakey.taleem hasil kar k is se b behter zrai-kamai mil sakte hain.asli khushiyan to pakistan main hain england k log jitni madiyat prast zindgi guzaar rahe hain jo hm soch b nai saktey.i must say i love my pakistan.

      • i love my pukha pakistan,ur very rite Javeria but i hope u never spend a pound r penny on u in ur life .
        Thanks

        • javeria says:

          Im sure i ll not spend a penny or pound on my beloved pakistan but i ll spend rupees which is pakisni currency.all my efforts r 4 my pakistan.it does nt need paisa but efficient people.

  9. ٓAteeq Sky says:

    اچھا لکحا ہے۔۔۔۔۔۔ ریلی نایس

  10. Naeem says:

    achi taleem se uk ka ticket sasta ha

    kitny log hein dadyal mein jo achi taleem aford kr sakty hein ?
    ager ye log uk na jaty to aj dadyal ka hal b afganistan jesa he hota

  11. abrar says:

    yeh bhi hain ke kitne maa baap apni beti aur betoo ko england shaadi karake bechte hain paise ke laalach mein. astagfirullah

  12. Naeem says:

    @abra

    r u in dadyal ?

  13. its very very tru that england destroyed our dadyal (Izaat) respect able life but my dear frends do u think wats happning in dadyal and why all this is so well located good looking, big plaza,moj masti,corolla,XLI,BMW,2.OD good life facilities,living standard,if we say we need that thing we get that just in few mintues from dadyal,so it depends on us that wat we r going to achive,that was old time when ppls were forced for servent but now its changed and it depends on us wat we decide,servent r back to dadyal.

  14. cov girl says:

    its not just Dadyal people its the whole of azad kashmir and Pakistan who have this mentality. People in pakistan believe if their son or daughter gets to england he/she will lead a good life and send money back home. they dont think about the consequences. they dont care how their sons and daughters will be treated and vice verca they dont think about how their son/ daughter will treat their spouce. guys and girls from england are getting married just to get parents off their backs. many carry on with other relationships whilst being married. who do you blame the parents or the children. Pakistan children and british children are worlds apart.

  15. rukhsana says:

    hi i agree with you 100 percent true carry on

  16. ali says:

    you are try to wirte some thing but you need to up grade ur level.Nothing in this artical just childish approch.first of all u should work for education in dadyal.i think there not quality education no enviorment and teaching method is not good.work to permote the education.then u’ll able to write some thing about it.ur have nagative approch.plz plz be postive.i feel only hate in it

  17. jojo, Abrar Arshad says:

    @brother ali your spelling is very good where you learn it?

  18. waqar says:

    ASALAAM O ALAIKUM SHEZAD BHAI KESEY HO OR FOTBALL MATCH KESEY JA RAHAY HAIN? IAM WAQAR FROM UK SAAB YES HAI NA SAAB KO SALAAM DENA MATCH PAR ALLAH HAFIZ

    • admin says:

      shahzad idr nahi ha. Im waqas.
      bohat acha, bataya nai aur chalay gay, main na socha tum abi idr hi ho, matches theek ja rhay hain, tum Uk kia gaey peechay tumari team jeetna bool gai.

    • Shahzad says:

      Everthing is going fine man! We have changed the teams into two groups , Para kandore and Rara Kandore.
      Rara kandore includes , Me ,shahid,waqas,yousaf(my cuzin from uk) , Ramazn, Zameer,Zameer uk, Faisal Qayyum,Majid balathi,majid paramora…. and paramora includes others like aadil,anees,rameez,bilal,seepi,ahsan,…etc.. We have just played 3 matches with these groups , 1st one aadil side won by 3-1 2nd we won with 3-1 and third one yesterday they won again by 4-1 ….Today n onwards we will win hopefully P:

  19. chaudhry says:

    salam waqas sahab, sohail here frum london, very good article indeed, but dont foget not everyone has same intensions lol.

    hur wots hapening in pak, ?

  20. m shakeel says:

    thats true,but not all the same

    your neighbour

  21. Mr M .Younas. says:

    Aslamalaikum to all.
    Truth hurts in every shape and size, The truth is that Pakistan is well loved by us. All Dadyalis, Mirpuries, so called Kashmiries (who hold Pakistan’s passports) that are settled in UK with a British passports are still giving every thing to our motherland, dont worry future generations motherland is UK. The future genaration would care for you out there back home whether you are Educated or Uneducated. You must understand any decent human being care for their own blood or nation. This is why Arrange Marriage are/were being arranged in their own family. Education, Wealth and Health were considered secondary, in My view there is nothing wrong in that. Being out here (England) seeing the world, Arrange Marriage’s are done Internationally not just in Dadyal.
    Further more I believe you only get what you deserve. You should respect us out here in the UK because we are some sort of resource in your up bringing, educating and migrating to the UK, who ever wished to come to UK. Dil ki muradh Allah mian bi puri karta hai. If you have no desire then you got no worry! but I assure you educatated and uneducated wants to come to England and again we are the who sponser you to UK! Think hard if you are sitting out there in Dadyal right this minute while you are reading this comment! The source you are using to view this comment how contribution has Western life got to do with it. Only your elders can tell you what us foriegners have done for you.
    THANK YOU!!!

    • admin says:

      Why should I respect you out there in Uk as You are a good source for dog fighting, horse breeding and other low level activities. If you think you are any resource in our bringing up you are very wrong. You guys have done so much on personal level, nothing for your back home (nation). Let me just start with Education we pay 4 times more than a Pakistani to get good education in Dadyal, just because we have to go Islamabad for good education as none of you have thought about investing in education in 30, 40 years.
      You guys can only invest in big buildings and import Pathans and other Pakistanies in those Banglows, who later on create problems for locals like us.
      Secondly if you think we should leave our moral values and respect for going UK and settling there, then you are the person whom i was talking about in this article. that was the subject not to loose our moral values.

      one more thing it was about forced marriages not arranged.
      I just thought about source of comment im viewing, and you people came on top again, coz none of you has even invested in IT in Dadyal as well.
      Good Luck for Future

      • javeria says:

        really very good answer!
        i realy like this point of view of yours and actually this is true.
        muje to abi tak aisa kuch ahsan nazar nai aya jo britians ne pakistanies pe kr k un ko khareed liya ho.lolz

  22. biggie says:

    dont kum england if your trying to make money becuase what ever you make will be taken off you by da the goverment trew taxes. its the worths country 2 live at the momment
    no jobs
    no life
    no nothing
    i rather be in pakistan chillin out in the sun relaxin

  23. Sohail Ahmed says:

    Shahid ne jo kuch kaha theek kaha ap keun becharon k pechy pary ho?

  24. A L i says:

    اسلام علیکم چھوٹے بھائی
    آپ کا آرٹیکل پڑا اور اس کے بعد آپ کے کومنٹس بھی پڑے میرے بھائی دماغ کو تھوڑا سا وسیح کر کہ سوچو آپ روزگار اور تعلیم کے لئے جہاں بھی جاؤ کوئی بری بات نہیں اور جو پٹھان مزدوری کرنے ڈڈیال آے ہیں یا جو پاکستانی ڈڈیال آے ہیں وو اپنا نصیب کھا رہے ہیں
    حضور پاک کا فرمان ہے تعلیم حاصل کرو بیشک تمہیں چین جانا پڑے اگر اس بات کو مدنظر رکھ کر سوچا جائے تو بات سمج میں یہ آتی ہے کہ آپ دنیا کے کسی کونے میں بھی جا سکتے ہو رہی بات کام کرنے یا پیسا بنانے کی تو جب آپ کسی ملک میں تعلیم کی غرض سے جاؤ گے تو آپ کو پیسا بھی چائے آپ کو مزدوری بھی کرنی پڑے گی
    آپ کے آرٹیکل میں مجے تحسب کی بو ائی ہے
    آپ کا بہوت شکریہ

    • admin says:

      علی سچ بہت کروا ہوتا ہے آپ نے غور سے نہیں پڑھا۔ میں نے انگلینڈ جانے کو بُرا نہیں کہا میں نے اس رواج کو بُرا کہا ہے جس میں لوگ عزت نفس چھوڑ کر انگلینڈ جاتے ہیں۔ اگر آپ کو عزت سے بہتر انگللینڈ جانا اچھا لگتا ہے تو آپ کا اللہ حافظ ہو۔ کیوں کی عزت سے بڑی شہ کوی نہیں

  25. A L i says:

    اسلام علیکم چھوٹے بھائی
    عزت نفس کو کہاں بیچ میں لے آے ہو آپ میں آپ کو تناسب بتاتا ہوں
    اگر ڈڈیال اور میرپور میں ١٠٠ شادیاں سالانہ ہوتی ہیں تو تقریبن ٨٥ شادیاں کامیاب ہوتی ہیں اس کا مطلب یہ ہوا کہ ٨٥% شادیاں کامیاب ہیں
    آپ کو یہ بی بتاتا چلوں کہ جو شادیاں آج سے ٣٠ سال پہلے ہوئی تھیں ان کے بیٹے اور بیٹیاں بھی اپنے بچوں کی شادیاں پاکستان میں ہی کرنا چاہتے ہیں
    اس کی ٢ وجہ ہیں ایک تو یہ کہ اپنے لوگوں اپنے ملک کے ساتھ ان کا رشتہ اور تعلق قائم رہے اور دوسری وجہ اپنی فیملی یا اپنے خاندان کی مدد کی جاتے
    آپ کو پتا ہے ١٩٧٠ کے عشرے میں ہمارے بڑوں نے بغیر کسی تحسب پسندی کی بنیاد پر مختلف قوموں کے لڑکے اور لڑکیوں کو اپنا بیٹا یا بیٹی بنا کر ان کو انگلینڈ میں سیٹل کیا
    یہ ہمارا سب کا فرض بنتا ہے کہ ہم اپنے بچوں کو ایسی تربیت دیں وو ایک دوسرے کی مدد کریں اور سب سے پہلے اپنے لوگوں کی مدد کریں
    آپ کا بہوت شکریہ

  26. Ch umar Yousaf says:

    its true………………….but some time its hard for both girl and guy aswell

  27. chaudhry says:

    waqas sahab tusa v maro nah waliet nah chaker !

  28. Abdur Rehman ansari says:

    Assalam o alaikum janab aap ne jo kaha 100% theek kaha aap ki kaoshish nakam nahi jai gi Insha Allah

  29. chaudhry says:

    sarey kool uti achu nah…

  30. Ambar says:

    I think the british girls are in a more diffecult situation, If the guy is uneducated he will find it hard to get a job, the girl first has to call him uk, provide for him, put a roof over him, have his children do everything for them like a single mother, while all he cares about is how he is going to show off to his mates on how great life is in uk, and spends each minute plotting on how to get through the 2 years until he can get stay and then say “oh my wife is this and that, and the inlaw treat me badly” BRAVO, it took you 2 years to work it out, amazing how they cannot leave before they get their stay, While a girl from pakistan, no matter how low life and characterless the british guy is will have everything provided for her, i don’t see no girl that comes from pakistan go to work, so what if she has to do a few house chours, something a british girl does as well has bring home a income.
    I believe it the fault of british parents pushing there kids into marriages from pakistan, if they did’nt we would’nt have to hear how evil and bad we are, after giving them everything, food,shalter, luxuaries, its always the british pakistani’s who get blamed for everything wrong in pakistan, truth is most not ALL people in pakistan are lazy and want something for nothing thats why everyone is suffering. If they educate their children and teach them values its all for them, no one is going to take it away from them but their partners and marriage will benefit from it.
    As far as innocent pakistani girls are concerned why do their parents give their hand to characterless boys, no one is forcing them, why don’t they find a good educated man in pakistan and marry her off, Greed is why because they are damn greedy, so guys everyone get what they deserve.
    Messege for people in Pakistan: Life is not all fairytales in UK and Money does not grow on trees, While your sitting there saying how bad people in UK are we are working to send money for you to be able to say that.

    WHAT YOU REAP IS WHAT YOU SOW!!!

    And before people start replying telling me how wrong i am i did say NOT ALL PAKISTANI’s just the ones who will have a problem with my comments, truth hurts right!!! If you are none of the above then you won’t have a problem with my comments will you???

  31. Ambar says:

    I also just want to say to all the people who say British girls have no Values and morals and things that i cannot even bring myself to say, all which i have heared myself, i want those people to just think about this one, when you send you high moral, high value girls to UK after they get their RED passport what do they become???? oh yes british and then they have children (Girls) what are they???? Well done, BRITISH, why you silly people call your own girls characterless, moral and valueless is beyound me.

    There are good and bad people everyone in this world, so who gives you the right to generalise. I’m know more then 100 girls pakistan who i would feel embarrased even calling a muslim girls, and i have only been to pakistan 4 times!!! but we don’t generalise do we!!

    So next time you feel like bringing BRITISH girls down remember who your really bringing down.

    thanks

  32. Aslam-o-Alikum !

    Yaar Muje Bi Lay Jao UK Mian bi Bohat Unn Par Hon
    wahan ja kr main har trhan ka kaam kar looon ga..

    Wo Kya Kehty Hian Jesa Deis Wesa Behas,, 😛

  33. fir ganja says:

    my girlfriend living in uk but nowadays she iz angry wid me ?????? what can i do for this Annoyance…. England to Jana hai.

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